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"Study Reveals What Really Happens When Gay Mormon Men Marry Straight Women"... Ah...Ya THINK!

8/24/2015

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I read an article on HuffingtonPost.com titled, "Study Reveals What Really Happens When Gay Mormon Men Marry Straight Women" and thought It was worth sharing. 

After I read the title I thought... 'AH... YA THINK!' Oh course divorce is high among mixed-orientation marriage but I didnt know exactly how high. There are a few other stats that you might find interesting as well. Enjoy...


You can read it below or you can click HERE to read it on the Huff Post site.
SALT LAKE CITY (RNS) The Mormon couples profiled on TLC’s “My Husband Is Not Gay” may find these statistics sobering: Marriages like theirs — same­-sex attracted men and straight women —are two to three times more likely to end in divorce than others.

That finding and others come from a newly released in­-depth survey of 1,612 self-­selected LGBT/same-­sex attracted Mormons and former Mormons, thought by researchers to be the largest study ever conducted with this population.

Rather than tapping a random sample, John Dehlin, a doctoral student at Utah State University, and Bill Bradshaw, a retired Brigham Young University professor, with help from Utah State’s Renee Galliher, solicited responses via various websites, including pro-­Mormon outlets such as North Star International and those more critical such as Dehlin’s own “Mormon Stories” podcast.

The study found that:

* Between 51 percent and 69 percent of mixed­-orientation Mormon marriages end in divorce, well above the roughly 25 percent of Mormon couples who split up.
* More than 70 percent of LGBT/same­-sex attracted Mormons leave the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
* 80 percent of respondents reported undergoing efforts to change their sexual orientation — 85 percent of which were religious and private efforts, 31 percent were private efforts only, 40 percent therapist-­led and 21 percent group efforts.
* 53 percent rejected their religious identity; 37 percent compartmentalized their sexual and religious identities; 6 percent rejected their LGBT identity; 4 percent integrated the two.

The study relied on participants in 48 states and 22 countries; 75 percent were male, 22 percent female; 91 percent were white; 7 percent were excommunicated from the LDS Church, 25 percent had resigned, 36 percent were inactive, 29 percent were active, and 3 percent had been disfellowshipped.

Forty­-two percent were single, 35 percent were in committed same-sex relationships, and 16 percent were married in a heterosexual relationship.

The process of finding respondents, known as “snowballing,” while not scientific, is a respected way to study certain issues and populations, Dehlin said. “We worked hard to avoid any bias.”

Others familiar with LGBT Mormons confirmed the results in their own research.

Kendall Wilcox, who has collected more than 300 narratives from LGBT Mormons and their families for his documentary film project, “Far Between,” also has noted that mixed­ orientation marriages are far more likely to fail than their counterparts.

Still, the study’s self-­selection, Wilcox said, “can skew the data.”

Those whose mixed­-orientation marriages ended experience “a kind of triple blame by their family and faith communities — first for being gay, then for having ruined the lives of their spouses and children by … marry(ing) in the service of trying to ‘overcome’ their homosexuality, and then finally for having failed in the marriage and ‘given up,’ ” he said.

On the other side, respondents who are “heavily invested in their (mixed-­orientation marriages’) success” want their perspective publicized, Wilcox said.

“Not only do they want their marriages to succeed for personal and religious reasons but they are also professionally invested in their propagation.”

The couples who are “doing just fine and have nothing to prove often remain silent,” he said. “Therefore, we don’t know their numbers and don’t know how their numbers compare to the ‘failed’ mixed ­orientation marriages.”

The survey also concluded that many more LDS gays try “personal righteousness” efforts — prayer, fasting, church activity, temple worship and strict observance of the LDS health code — as a way to change their orientation than those who seek psychological interventions such as the discredited “reparative therapy.”

None of it worked, Dehlin said. “Zero percent of participants were able to eliminate same-­sex attraction.” And they were psychologically damaged by trying.

Though the LDS Church says being homosexual is not a sin, only acting on it is, the Utah­-based faith offers its gay members two options: Remain celibate or marry someone of the opposite sex.

The study characterized these members’ coping efforts in four ways: denial of their sexuality, rejecting their religion, compartmentalizing their sexuality and their faith or integrating the two.

The survey found — and Wilcox’s research confirmed — that the more Mormon and the more same-­sex attracted a person is (on the Kinsey scale), the more prone that person is to depression and suicide.

“The conflict is at its highest in these sorts of people,” Wilcox said.

The most psychologically healthy outcomes were experienced by those who could openly balance their faith with their sexuality, Dehlin noted. “But not many people can do it.”

4 Comments
Gaymobro link
8/26/2015 01:57:41 pm

Hi Cody, you have to be careful believing these findings. Mr. Dehlin used a sampling technique called snowballing which often leads to bias and inaccurate results. While I think it's safe to use this study to say that mixed orientation marriages are more likely to end in divorce, I have very low confidence in the specific numbers.

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Cody
8/26/2015 02:24:32 pm

I agree. I'm extremely skeptical of data from any research project. I understand why the snowballing method was used because he is working with a hidden populations. In this case for example... I imagine there are not many openly gay, mormon, mixed orientation marriages, willing to discuss this matter. Its hard to sample data from people who are closeted. I imagine as time goes on and society catches up with the gray area of sexuality, we will be able to better sample. Thanks for the comment! Keep posting! ;-)

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gaymobro link
8/27/2015 12:00:57 pm

Indeed. I know my children are much more open. My son who is very straight can often be heard saying things like, "He's so hot!"

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etseq
10/2/2015 06:55:42 am

Dehlin is well respected in the secular world as a social scientist and he has been critical of the LDS church for the damage it has done to gays and women. So of course the LDS apologists trash him like "gaymobro" above. The sampling technique he used was appropriate because of the difficulties of studying such a stigmatized sub-population.
Anyway, it is light years ahead of the homophobic religious pseudo-science that Northstar promotes - especially the Journey into Manhood retreats where Ty and his young male friends can get naked and bond over healing touches.

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